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When asked my gender I don't know how to answer I am just Denise. Jane Emily on March 14, , A letter sounds like the best route, despite it seeming impersonal. My dad will not take this well. My sarcastic side really wants to start the letter with "Dad, I know it has been a long time since I truly disappointed you but that's probably about to change.
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Being loved is nice. Feeling free is better. Don't wait for a better time to come out, there isn't. Set up a deadline, talk to them, they are your parents. They love you, they will definitely accept you. You can arrange them to be together, if you don't want to go through it twice. Just tell them everything you have kept hidden deep in your heart, you'll instantly feel better. Don't do the same mistakes that I did. I kept on postponing telling them, I got depressed. Atlast, I told them in a hotel room, the day after I had attempted suicide. Please, just tell them, they understand, that's what parents are for.
First off I would like to unofficially welcome you to Susan's Place, I hope you like it here enough to keep coming back. I cannot help you with your parental because though I am much older than you I am currently struggling with how to tell my daughter and her husband about me. I can however sympathize with your plight. I showed up quaking to a family meal with nails painted one day no going back from that, so I thought I had a big speech prepared for the fallout and anticipated questions.
Nobody said a word! So in a way my hand was forced, my master plan spectacularly bombed and I was all out of courage. A few weeks later It all just came flooding out. I think it's different for everyone, when the time's right you'll find the courage and grab the moment. I'm 43 and still worried about telling my parents. I will probably be telling them next weekend when I am up for a visit. Probably will do it on the last day there. I'm so nervous as it gets closer, but I won't be able to hide it much longer, not that I really want to, but my fear has been getting the better of me.
All the worlds a joke, and the people, merely punchlines September 13, HRT start date. Connecting my true self to the world. I came out to my parents at the ripe age of I ended up writing them a letter. It allowed me to make sure that I said everything that I wanted to, that I said it in a way that it would be understood the way I intended, and gave my parents the ability to re-read as they saw fit. It ended up working out very well.
They were able to take their time reading it, have their reaction to themselves and then come to me with questions and thankfully to ultimately express their love and support. Many of my comings-out have been done this way and most have thanked me for doing it that way. Oddities 25 Aug Times New, Roaming 25 Aug Provide feedback about this page.
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That's what he says? I heard "I am agripansexual" every time. Which might be someone who's into farming equipment and doesn't discriminate between the different kinds of equipment, which wouldn't surprise me in this point because there's like a million different terms. Straight men love penis.
It is the straightest thing a man can do, playing with a woman's penis. She's cute, but personally, I fancy the lesbian more. I suppose she's off limits, though It's more that Hillary being a "warmonger" was used as an attack on her and a justification for voting for Trump; it's calling out the hypocrisy. You know, seeing this, I kinda get why people like him. No dressing up bullshit in language. Just say whatever the fuck you want. Not a good trait for a president, but I can see why people like it.
Obama can dress it up however he wants, he spent eight years doing just that. Bombing the everloving shit out of anyone tangentially related to ISIS. But he'd never say it like that. He'd dress it up, say things like "Military operations" "Drone warfare" "counter-insurgency tactics" and all that bullshit. Side not, what's with the guy saying "I am actually pansexual".
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Like, what the fuck does that even mean? I thought that was just bisexual? Some people prefer the term 'pansexual' as it doesn't have the connotations of a gender binary the way 'bisexual' does. I generally use 'bisexual' to describe myself with the vast majority of people and 'pansexual' when I'm with people that I'm sure will know what I mean. I am such a hater and I don't want to be, but hearing most of this stuff just pisses me off.
I have to lead a LGBT seminar for a medical school and I have to define the difference between transgender, transsexual and transvestite for the group. I seriously don't care how someone defines themselves. They can use whatever word they want, but when they start expecting me to look up the definitions of 3 similar, definitionally-mercurial words to make sure I don't offend them, it makes me even more bigoted.
And I don't want to be bigoted in the first place. How do I chill out? Honestly most trans folk don't get offended if you use a word wrong or even use wrong pronouns. They might correct you and that's it. Using the right words afterwards is mostly just a matter of politeness like remembering someone's name is. The fact that you have to look up those words for medical school is just because it's relevant to that field.
You have to understand what people mean when they talk about themselves to give appropriate medical care, I'd say. Why does it make you angry? Is it the definitions themselves or people expecting you to know what they mean? In my experience most people are pretty understanding if you misuse labels out of unfamiliarity so long as you make an genuine effort to understand them which, let's be real, is probably a good rule for treating people of any group. I've met a few people that fit the whole easily offended stereotype and I'm definitely not defending them because I agree that it's really unreasonable to expect everyone to be familiar with uncommon labels, but there are bad apples in every group.
Someone who identifies with a different gender identity than they were assigned at birth — Always default to this if you aren't sure. Almost entirely synonymous with transgender, but used uncommonly due to associations with outdated medical literature — Should only be used if someone asks you to. A cisgender non-transgender person that wears clothing associated with the opposite sex — Should only be used for this purpose. We don't get offended by somebody using the wrong terminology as long as they are willing to learn and correct it.
Education is the key. Concepts in gender and sexuality can get extremely complicated but they fascinate me. Transgender has to do with identifying as the opposite gender and transvestite is merely dressing as that gender for fun or sexual reasons while still identifying as the birth gender. I'm a pansexual trans girl so I tend to get a lot of questions and none of them really bother me.
It is always refreshing to hear that most people in the real world are not the caricatures we see online. I may not agree with the glut of new terms that are used in gender studies, but I don't want to be rude to anyone. If you prefer to be called pansexual people should respect your wish. But I do think there is a danger of the boy who called wolf. If there are too many terms and too many social obligations people like me will resist because all of a sudden we are disproportionately treating you differently than any other person.
I don't want to give a trans person any special treatment, negative OR positive. I want to treat you just like I treat everyone else -- a respect that doesn't require a bachelors degree in whatever discipline they identify with. I actually completely agree with you.
I'm fine with people thinking of me as bisexual because that's what most people can understand and bi erasure is a HUGE problem in the LGT community. And most trans people don't want special treatment. We want exactly what you said: The only thing "special" is that I wouldn't want you to call me 'he' any more than a cis girl would even though I really don't pass that well and haven't gone full-time as a girl yet.
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I'm actually thinking about getting a Women, Gender, and Sexuality Studies certificate with whatever grad school program or law school I decide to go with. If I could do my life differently, I probably would have chosen to go completely into the field of gender and sexuality research.
This might be one of the most mature and empathetic conversations I have ever seen on this site. Your insight and willingness to inform without criticism has been the highlight of my week. It's one of those comment chains where you share with a friend because there's so much polarized stuff to deal with day to day that a peaceful and meaningful interaction has so much value. Thank you so much! I try to not be too adversarial in any post I make and it's served me pretty well in almost 5 years on reddit. I had another 4-year-old account before I made this one.
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With all the stuff you see on this site, even if you curtail your subs, I find that there is just little reason to go online unless you want be constantly confronted with the polarized parts of society. I just hope you realize the kind of power you have in your position too. In fact I would say it's what the world needs more of now.
Not only am I aware, I intend to use it to its full potential.